Its been a little over a year since Jamie was born, and life has changed beyond measure, that did not surprise me. But here are few things that have surprised me about myself since becoming a mum:
- I cried more than I thought was humanly possible. We took Jamie home from the hospital when he was a day old, and for six days straight I cried, happy tears thank god (apart from day four when my milk came in and I couldn’t pinpoint the exact reason, happy, sad, sore, tired, overwhelmed, did I mention sore?!). The tears poured out of me every time I looked at him. I couldn’t believe he was mine, that he was here. Luckily I limited the visitors and the mascara in those early days.
- I can have a good night without alcohol..what?! Now for an Irish girl that’s quite a statement. But being pregnant for nine months and breastfeeding for eight meant that drink was pretty much off the menu, and it turns out I was able to have a laugh at the pub, or even go to a concert without a drink and shock horror, I discovered it actually was possible to have fun without it, who knew?! And now that Jamie’s milk of choice is cows milk and not mine, I do look forward to a gin or two, sometimes looking forward to it more than I should. But a couple of drinks these days is more than enough. A hangover with a toddler? No thank you.
- I like classical music? Pregnant and stressed with work I discovered Classic FM. I would tune in to switch off as I sat in traffic with my giant bump to get me from the job to my front door. I kept this from John for ages for fear of the slagging that would ensue…turns out he too was a closet Classic FM fan during his daily commute to and from work. Its been a pretty amazing de-stressor, even Jamie agrees.
- How fond I would become of Lycra. Gym gear and yoga pants have pretty much become a staple in my maternity leave wardrobe, despite not once going to a gym or a yoga class this year. Comfy and easy win every time.
- How selective I would become with the company I choose. Someone once told me that there are two types of people in the world, radiators and drains. One gives you energy, the other drains it from you. Choose wisely, choose radiators.
- I was warned about the amount of clothes I would be washing, but seriously, the laundry basket will never be empty will it?
- The amount of time I would spend at the post office. This ‘pastime’ certainly did not feature as regularly in my pre-baby life. Now all of a sudden there are so many urgent reasons to post a parcel/card/letter. Maybe its because I want to actually tick the to-do list, and feel like I’ve accomplished something non-baby related. Being able to say, ‘today I looked after the baby AND posted something’. Same goes for the amount of time I have been spending at John Lewis and the library. At least I don’t spend anything at the library.
- How much I would come to value a quiet cup of tea, quiet being the operative word here. As soon as have I have him down for his naptime, i.e. ‘me time’, the kettle goes on. Sometimes I use this time to eat, sometimes to clean, other times to stare at a blank wall, but whatever, that little window of time is actual gold. And when the postman, or elephants (neighbours) upstairs disturb that, well [insert swear word here]. Do not mess with a mummy and her napping child. See photo attached.
- Baby brain is not a myth. Well in my case anyway, and one year later it looks like it is here to stay, horary for me!
- I’m sure there are a lot more ways in which I have surprised myself since becoming a parent, but I can hear Jamie stirring in the background, signalling the end of nap time, and I’ve spent it typing and not drinking tea!
What has surprised you most since becoming a parent? I would love to know..